Are you thinking about going to Mass for the first time? It’s an incredible experience, but being a little nervous is normal if you’ve never been before. Below are common questions and tips to help you understand what to expect and how to make the most of the experience.
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1. Do I have to be Catholic to go to Mass?
No. Mass is for everyone, and all are welcome regardless of their religious (or non-religious) background. This extends to Traditional Latin Mass and Novus Ordo.
2. Do I have to speak with the parish or parish priest before attending Mass?
No. You do not have to talk to the priest or parish ahead of time. If you want to learn more about the faith, you can wait till after the Mass to talk to the priest, or you can schedule a meeting at the parish office.
3. Is there a simple way to think about wardrobe before going to Mass?
Think of it this way: You are going to share a meal with Jesus. How would you dress to share a meal with your Lord and Saviour? Would you go to a dinner party at Buckingham Palace to meet an earthly king wearing jeans and flip-flops (even if you knew him well)?
If the answer is no, then do not dress this way for Mass. Your clothes are a sign of a respect, not a sign of familiarity or how long you’ve been going to Mass.
4. What should men and boys wear to Mass?
Boys/Men: Collared or Button Down Shirt (i.e., flannel, Polo, Hawaiian shirt, etc)
Shoes: Close-toed shoes (Oxfords, Dress Shoes)
Shoulders: Shoulders must be covered.
Pants/Trousers: Pants and trousers should be below our just above the knee.
5. What should women and girls wear to Mass?
Girls/Women: Dress that goes past your fingertips and covers shoulders (or dress with a sweater).
Blouse: Blouse that covers the shoulders with a skirt.
Pants/Trousers: Dress-Pants or Trousers are acceptable (try to wear a dress for Sunday or Holy Days of Obligation).
Shoes: Ballet flats, closed-toed shoes, dress shoes, sandals.
6. What should I do when I enter the Church?
If they have holy water put a drop of it on your finger and cross yourself.
Kneel in front of the crucifix and bow your head before entering your pew and make the sign of the cross.
Place the kneeler on the ground when you enter the pew. Some Catholics prefer to remain in silent prayer before Mass begins. Since this is your first time going to Mass, whether or not you use the kneeler is entirely up to you.
7. What should I do for Communion?
You may remain seated during Communion if you would like. Do not receive the Eucharist unless you are a Confirmed Roman Catholic and are of good moral standing. If you have not received your First Communion (as a child) or taken the Sacrament of Confirmation (as a teenager or adult) you cannot receive the Eucharist. However, all are welcome to receive a Communion Blessing. To receive a blessing, get in the Communion line. When the person in front of you is receiving Communion, do a deep reverent bow behind them. When it is your turn to receive Communion, cross your arms across your chest to form an ‘x’. Then, return to your pew. It is customary to remain kneeling using the kneeler until the priest puts the Host in the tabernacle. However, since this is your first time at Mass, you are welcome to sit respectfully at the edge of your pew until the Host is in the tabernacle.
8. Why do some women wear veils? Should I?
Veiling is a way of bringing yourself closer to Christ. The practice of veiling for Mass goes back centuries and was considered customary before the Second Vatican Council (more Catholics have veiled in history than not). Many women still wear a veil as a sign of reverence, modesty, and in imitation of the Virgin Mary. It is important to remember that veiling is not a display of virtue, but it illustrates the individual understands the importance of virtue and that Mass is a sacred space. Veiling is another way of showing how we honor Jesus in our hearts.
Whether or not one wishes to veil is a personal choice. However, the practice of veiling can help the individual prepare mentally for Mass and may allow them to personally receive more from the celebration. If you have not veiled before, try it.
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